Why can’t we all just get along at the office

Lets all be honest with each other for a minute no matter how much you like your job or where you are at in your career you will eventually end up working with someone that you do not like, whether it is a colleague, supporting team member or your boss. 

Everything is great when you get to work with people you already respect, trust and know that you can work well with.  The true challenge is when you have to work on a project or task with someone that you do not like for the previous mentioned reason.  If it has not happened already, I don’t want to scare you, but it will, and you will find yourself having to working with someone that you just don’t like.

Some will try to get assigned to another project or department, but what if this is an opportunity that you do not want to turn down and you do not want to get reassigned.  This is why learning to collaborate successfully with people you dislike is such a valuable skill because eventually you will need to use it, so I recommend that you take baby steps and start working your office nemesis on smaller projects, and work on the following skills before you find yourself in the position of being forced to collaborate with them or another person that you do not like in the office.

First thing you need to do is understand why you dislike the person. Sometimes we form a dislike for people at work because they remind us of someone else or of talk around the office about their work ethic and or personal life.  Understand why you do not like someone if it is because you have worked with them and they did not pull their weight then you need to deal with that.  If it is because someone else you might like worked with them and they did not get along is that a good enough reason for you to automatically assume the same or should you give them the benefit of doubt and make your own judgement based on the projects that you have been assigned to do.

Second is to remember that you do not need to like them, and they do not need to be your friend.  What you need to do is to get along and work effectively with them, you need to remember this is not personal it is professional, and it needs to stay that way.

Keep your emotions in Check. Dealing with someone who rubs you the wrong way can have a negative effect on your job performance and your own attitude at work and at home. Regardless of your colleague’s behavior, always take the high road.  This is business not personal so concentrate on the project not the person you are working with.  Also remember not to give them the power to control your attitude and that is for you to decide and control and only you.

Communication is Key. It is always good to communicate with a colleague when working together.  However, it is critical with people you dislike or that may dislike you.  That means having more dialogues both verbally and written through email.  It means listening more than you speak and spending more time understanding their point of view, you never know you might inspire your office nemesis.

Stay focused on your goal.  If you are unable to improve your work relation with the person you have been assigned to work with then learn to play or in this case work nice and on achieving the goals of the project.

Working with a colleague you dislike is never fun. However, if you use this tips you can remain professionalism.  It may also help you identify when someone dislikes you in the office and help you work better together after all you could be the one that is disliked.

by Calli Gregg